A Xhosa Engagement Dresses For African Women’s 2021

today I’m sharing a Xhosa engagement Dress. This celebration is so lit and you wouldn’t believe the time it took to plan the entire thing. I hope this Xhosa engagement will shed a light-weight on a number of you my readers who aren’t conversant in our African culture.

The purpose of lobola isn’t to “sell” someone. But it’s a unity of two families coming together to celebrate love. I used to be lecture someone this past weekend (who may be additionally a South Africa by the way) who feels Lobola is a thing of the past and will be left there. you’ll only imagine my reactions. to mention that I used to be fuming is an irony. I used to be horrified.

I think I’ll write a separate post, to clarify what Lobola is and why numerous families prefer to roll in the hay. For now, though enjoy this stunning Xhosa engagement.

A XHOSA ENGAGEMENT
He slipt into my dm’s and that we became friends. a couple of months later he was like. “girl I’m not here for friendship” From then on we became lovebirds.

My traditional engagement party happened in Edenglen, on the 30th of November last year. The lobola negotiation happened within the morning then the party started around 1 pm.

The engagement is simply families, friends meeting going to know one another before the large day, celebrating the new journey we’re close to starting.

My aunt’s friends were so happy/excited once they heard the news. My fiance’s friends were also so happy everyone offered tons, for instance, my aunt’s friends offered to cook different traditional dishes, some offered to bring stoves pots. Different people were offering various things to contribute towards the engagement. That made me realize that family isn’t just people you’re blood-related to but family is that the people that are always willing to support you emotionally in everything that happens in your life, either good or bad.

I designed my dress then took the sketch to the tailor’s every week before my engagement. He made both my dress and my fiance’s attire in one week and he never disappointed us. My sister Sindi Mazibuko made my work on my behalf. My bridesmaids took the designs I had requested to their tailors and everything figured out fine. Everyone was happy and everybody looked stunning.

The three lessons I learned are :

1. Never put pressure on yourself

2. Leave room for disappointments no event is totally perfect. As long as your guests are having an excellent time then meaning all is well.

3. Family is extremely important. Be kind to them.

The favorite part of my Xhosa engagement was meeting a number of my fiance’s family. the very fact that everybody enjoyed the food and kept going for seconds made me happy. And to only see people having an excellent time.

I knew I used to be ready for marriage because I secured my relationship with Jehovah first, everything else then falls into place.